Not only has this winter been LOOOOONG, but a big blow for us as swingers, and it has nothing to do with our relationship or sexual desires and has everything with stereotypical assholes who see swinging as taboo or deviant. Without getting deep into my personal life I will simplify the story...here it goes. Last fall I got myself into the middle of a HUGE custody battle with an ex. and needless to say all kinds of BS accusations got thrown, and when push came to shovel it was brought up that myself and my husband were swingers. We are not shy about letting people know. Do we go around telling everyone?? Of course not, we own a business and are respected in our community, but we are not afraid to admit it for those that ask...just the way we both are. Non-judgmental of everyone so why should they judge us for a lifestyle we indulge in here and there. We don't live the lifestyle everyday of our lives, do we have friends in the lifestyle, of course. Do we all get together now and then...talk, bullshit and even play, of course we do. But our kids are not affected by the lifestyle in anyway. They were trying to say this made us bad parents??? As most of you know we ran Rumours...alittle cozy party every month to keep the mind, body and soul in tact...lol We have never had parties at our home or rarely invite others over (rarely is literally like 3 people..a close couple (G & J...anytime, they are friends) and another friend of ours K, but never when the kids were there. This was enough to tweek my nipples but believe or not they pushed farther. They submitted as evidence lifestyle pictures of me. First, I am not ashamed of my body and its a natural beautiful thing..my lifestyle pictures are pretty conservative in comparison. But my kids have also never seen them and don't have access to my computer to find any pics, any we have are on digital cards, and locked in our gun safe..only 1 key. The point being how does being the lifestyle and having pictures on the internet effect me being a good mother?? I was so appalled this was happening and at the same time trying to get together Rumours again to re-open in Lima....what a nightmare! We didn't play all winter, besides the weather outside was frightful...I was so insulted that something so natural as sex and the permission from your spouse to fuck someone else and do whatever makes you feel good was being judged to the point of conflicting with my ability to be a good mother...for a minute I began to question whether I would leave the lifestyle for good. Its no fun being judged. I wasn't humiliated by them having the pictures and they could have shown them in the courtroom for all I cared....shit I had dreams about being on the stand and exposing my breasts to see if they just wanted to see the real thing. lol Lords knows I would do it for real! But someone saying it effected who I was otherwise during my family time with my husband and kids....hell no.
I can tell you the custody case ended....WITHOUT going into Court, and it was a good outcome. And....we are still swinging, and beyond ready to jump in with both feet and re-open Rumours. Hope to see all my "friends" soon!!!
