Life has been so busy I really need to catch up on my blog....so lets see, my sex life as a swinger.  Its been going well and you know what I have figured out, we actually evolve as a couple with each experience.  I was talking to a vanilla friend of my ours and explaining how the lifestyle has taught me a lot about sex, my likes, fantasies and about how my body works....the experimentation has been AWESOME!  I told him I think as women we all go through those high school days were you've been with atleast one guy who was "wham, bam, thank you maam!"  Well...usually without the thank you LOL  And that's not to say I didn't have good sex in my younger years...but in comparison never as good as I do now, because I know things about myself that I never knew then.  I didn't know I could have multi orgasms but then again going back to the early days...the men assumed as soon as I came I was done, and so I was.  I didn't know I could squirt...can't even say for awhile I knew women in general could do so.  And though I have always liked sucking cock...I would have to say I have learned some techniques that make it a whole lot better for my partner. Practice makes perfect!!!




So lets see....my husband and I met another couple in town...K & T.  We went to dinner with them, very nice couple and had a wonderful time over Mexican food and drinks.  Its nice to be able to sit down with a couple beforehand and being able to honestly discuss what likes and dislikes they have sexually and since we all know there are different "types" of couples in the lifestyle...its always a topic of interest to discuss where exactly everyone stands.  After dinner they asked us over to their place but considering we RARELY "hook up" with anyone the first time out and...we only had a planned babysitter for so long we graciously declined.  It was nice they asked, but we rarely do that so we can discuss honestly what we thought of them as a couple.  I mean we can go out and have a good time, doesn't mean we want to jump in the sack with them.  It may be they are nice just not sexually compatible.  Now that wasn't the case, but its still nice to discuss with your partner...and we did.  Lets just say the conversation went well and  we called to meet up with them again...only K wasn't available he was working so T was going to come over to play.  At the last minute she cancelled....ok I can't say this didn't annoy me a bit because I am a planner by nature and was doing this for my husband.  I love to do things for him...alittle surprise, but we got over it and ended up going to the club in Ft. Wayne....Insert ...whatever fantasy you want here because it just didn't happen....BOO!  Its really a disappointment when you pay to go to the club and there is just nothing magical about it....but again it happens what can ya do. There was a lot of single men there that night and though we are fine with that, its not what we were looking for. I  hope everyone reading understands this is a honest to God blog about everything good bad and ugly...which includes my feelings about how things go sometimes and how other people don't get me...or maybe I don't get them.  First I will start by saying I demand a lot of respect about myself and think I deserve it.  I do what I want and am with who I want but won't be second best by any means.  Well at the club that night A was there....*see previous blogs...been with him before and had great times.  I never expect when I see him that its a given he wants me or vice versa.  But this night we seen each other, talked etc...all good.  He had been pursuing this girl and by the end of the night they decided they were leaving...so he approaches me and starts touching me and asking me if I want to go back to a room.  Like I said...always a good time, but I was like Nah we are going home.  I understand its just sex and good sex at that, but if you wanted to be with me approach me early on and let me know...don't just settle because someone else wouldn't....ya know??  Maybe it was selfish, but I can get cock anywhere I go and can be choosy...so I chose to leave it.  Not sure we will ever go back there, just seems to always be this way and no great experiences seem to come from there anymore.  BOY do I miss the old Club Utopia.  R didn't know what he had until it all came crumbling down and for those of you newer in the lifestyle that didn't get to go to this club...You missed out!  I will have to write about it all one time in one blog entry because that was before I started writing.
Ok back to K and T...they called one night and wanted to know if we wanted to do something, so we invited them over...really with no expectations...We sat around and talked. I smoke in my kitchen at home and from our kitchen my husband was sitting on the couch were he could see me, so I kept flashing him and he was smiling, K and T were like what is going on in there.  But I was just trying to get my husband ready and horny. K and T came out to the kitchen to smoke, where T was leaned over the island and my husband came up behind her to rub his cock against her. Her and my husband went back into the living room...and K and I stayed in the kitchen.  This is kind of unusual for us because when we play we like to be able to touch each other and K and T didn't seem to mind they couldn't...maybe I am just misunderstanding...but hey like I said previously everyone has different likes/dislikes and are in the lifestyle in different ways. They play separately and we don't...so its probably the difference.  I prefer to see my husband in action and vise versa, its a turn on more than the act itself for us.   Back to the steamy stuff ;)  T straddled my husband and though I couldn't see him, I asked him about it later and said they were kissing and he was licking and sucking her tits.  I did see the tits earlier on in the kitchen and they are nice....some people just don't have pretty tits...I can say this because I do...LOL  So off track there.  So  T got down on her knees and began sucking on my husband's cock.  K and I were still in the kitchen, he was rubbing my back and began kissing my neck and fondling the rest of my body.  I turned towards him and kissed him...good kisser...another thing sometimes hard to find in the lifestyle. And my husband admitted T is a good kisser too...so double plus!  And kissing really is such a turn on to me.  K's got a sensitive neck and reacted greatly to me kissing and lighting sucking on it.  I love reaction...obviously it lets me know, they like it but its a turn on to know you can make it happen.  I began rubbing his cock though his pants and we decided to move to the living room.  By this time my husband has T laid on his lap rubbing her clit.  Shes moaning and enjoying him.  He really does know his way around the pussy and specially a clit....big fan of clit stimulation here, specially when someone is doing it right.  K sits on the couch across from T and my husband and I slip his cock out of his pants and begin sucking his cock.  I try some different techniques because obviously when its someone you've never been with...you gotta find what they really like...I went slow, fast, flicked my tongue and lightly...emphasize LIGHTLY ran my teeth other the head of his cock as I drew it in and out of my mouth. K asks if he can lick my pussy.  Who am I to say no...can you imagine...nah...hells no!  So I slip off my clothes and lay back on the couch, he kneels between my legs and licks and sucks on my pussy til I come a few times.  I could have let him continue, but I am ready to go. I slide back onto the loveseat and he slowly enters my wet pussy.  Hes careful to some degree because his cock is a bit longer and has a slight curve (which I must say in a good position could come in quite handy) In the heat of the moment he does stroke alittle too long, but I must say some of the larger men I have been with are used to it and know when they've done it.  He apologized without needing too...its not as I ever figure these men are doing it on purpose.  Once I am good and wet and used to it then it doesn't bother me as much.  I enjoy others getting as much pleasure as I do.  So lets just say by the time my pussy was dripping wet I was grabbing on his back and ass and pushing him into me.  The loveseat did get alittle awkward and so we switched positions to doggy style.  And he was ramming my pussy in that position.  My tits were bouncing everywhere and it was feeling good.  I just had to wonder if I was feeling good to him. I guess we just get comfortable with our spouse, know exactly what feels good and vice versa, and have to say I just know how to send my husband over the top when I want to.  Some people in the lifestyle I cannot do that with and K was one of them.  But I can't figure I would with it only being our first time together.  I look at it this way...a lot of times you only get one chance to make a first impression....for reasons unknown sometimes people won't be back in touch.  And its a crazy thing, because you have to expect not to know everything about someone right off the bat...and its quite nice to have someone close in our town we can play with every now and then....because as I mentioned earlier, spending the money to go to a club and gamble whether your going to find someone is becoming a crazy waste of money.  It was a good time and we've tried to hook up with them since, T has been flirting with my husband, but since she was unable to truly play that night because of mother nature they haven't gotten down and dirty yet....  But we are still trying...and I am sure y'all will hear about them again real soon ;)