Life has been so busy I really need to catch up on my blog....so lets see, my sex life as a swinger.  Its been going well and you know what I have figured out, we actually evolve as a couple with each experience.  I was talking to a vanilla friend of my ours and explaining how the lifestyle has taught me a lot about sex, my likes, fantasies and about how my body works....the experimentation has been AWESOME!  I told him I think as women we all go through those high school days were you've been with atleast one guy who was "wham, bam, thank you maam!"  Well...usually without the thank you LOL  And that's not to say I didn't have good sex in my younger years...but in comparison never as good as I do now, because I know things about myself that I never knew then.  I didn't know I could have multi orgasms but then again going back to the early days...the men assumed as soon as I came I was done, and so I was.  I didn't know I could squirt...can't even say for awhile I knew women in general could do so.  And though I have always liked sucking cock...I would have to say I have learned some techniques that make it a whole lot better for my partner. Practice makes perfect!!!




So lets see....my husband and I met another couple in town...K & T.  We went to dinner with them, very nice couple and had a wonderful time over Mexican food and drinks.  Its nice to be able to sit down with a couple beforehand and being able to honestly discuss what likes and dislikes they have sexually and since we all know there are different "types" of couples in the lifestyle...its always a topic of interest to discuss where exactly everyone stands.  After dinner they asked us over to their place but considering we RARELY "hook up" with anyone the first time out and...we only had a planned babysitter for so long we graciously declined.  It was nice they asked, but we rarely do that so we can discuss honestly what we thought of them as a couple.  I mean we can go out and have a good time, doesn't mean we want to jump in the sack with them.  It may be they are nice just not sexually compatible.  Now that wasn't the case, but its still nice to discuss with your partner...and we did.  Lets just say the conversation went well and  we called to meet up with them again...only K wasn't available he was working so T was going to come over to play.  At the last minute she cancelled....ok I can't say this didn't annoy me a bit because I am a planner by nature and was doing this for my husband.  I love to do things for him...alittle surprise, but we got over it and ended up going to the club in Ft. Wayne....Insert ...whatever fantasy you want here because it just didn't happen....BOO!  Its really a disappointment when you pay to go to the club and there is just nothing magical about it....but again it happens what can ya do. There was a lot of single men there that night and though we are fine with that, its not what we were looking for. I  hope everyone reading understands this is a honest to God blog about everything good bad and ugly...which includes my feelings about how things go sometimes and how other people don't get me...or maybe I don't get them.  First I will start by saying I demand a lot of respect about myself and think I deserve it.  I do what I want and am with who I want but won't be second best by any means.  Well at the club that night A was there....*see previous blogs...been with him before and had great times.  I never expect when I see him that its a given he wants me or vice versa.  But this night we seen each other, talked etc...all good.  He had been pursuing this girl and by the end of the night they decided they were leaving...so he approaches me and starts touching me and asking me if I want to go back to a room.  Like I said...always a good time, but I was like Nah we are going home.  I understand its just sex and good sex at that, but if you wanted to be with me approach me early on and let me know...don't just settle because someone else wouldn't....ya know??  Maybe it was selfish, but I can get cock anywhere I go and can be choosy...so I chose to leave it.  Not sure we will ever go back there, just seems to always be this way and no great experiences seem to come from there anymore.  BOY do I miss the old Club Utopia.  R didn't know what he had until it all came crumbling down and for those of you newer in the lifestyle that didn't get to go to this club...You missed out!  I will have to write about it all one time in one blog entry because that was before I started writing.
Ok back to K and T...they called one night and wanted to know if we wanted to do something, so we invited them over...really with no expectations...We sat around and talked. I smoke in my kitchen at home and from our kitchen my husband was sitting on the couch were he could see me, so I kept flashing him and he was smiling, K and T were like what is going on in there.  But I was just trying to get my husband ready and horny. K and T came out to the kitchen to smoke, where T was leaned over the island and my husband came up behind her to rub his cock against her. Her and my husband went back into the living room...and K and I stayed in the kitchen.  This is kind of unusual for us because when we play we like to be able to touch each other and K and T didn't seem to mind they couldn't...maybe I am just misunderstanding...but hey like I said previously everyone has different likes/dislikes and are in the lifestyle in different ways. They play separately and we don't...so its probably the difference.  I prefer to see my husband in action and vise versa, its a turn on more than the act itself for us.   Back to the steamy stuff ;)  T straddled my husband and though I couldn't see him, I asked him about it later and said they were kissing and he was licking and sucking her tits.  I did see the tits earlier on in the kitchen and they are nice....some people just don't have pretty tits...I can say this because I do...LOL  So off track there.  So  T got down on her knees and began sucking on my husband's cock.  K and I were still in the kitchen, he was rubbing my back and began kissing my neck and fondling the rest of my body.  I turned towards him and kissed him...good kisser...another thing sometimes hard to find in the lifestyle. And my husband admitted T is a good kisser too...so double plus!  And kissing really is such a turn on to me.  K's got a sensitive neck and reacted greatly to me kissing and lighting sucking on it.  I love reaction...obviously it lets me know, they like it but its a turn on to know you can make it happen.  I began rubbing his cock though his pants and we decided to move to the living room.  By this time my husband has T laid on his lap rubbing her clit.  Shes moaning and enjoying him.  He really does know his way around the pussy and specially a clit....big fan of clit stimulation here, specially when someone is doing it right.  K sits on the couch across from T and my husband and I slip his cock out of his pants and begin sucking his cock.  I try some different techniques because obviously when its someone you've never been with...you gotta find what they really like...I went slow, fast, flicked my tongue and lightly...emphasize LIGHTLY ran my teeth other the head of his cock as I drew it in and out of my mouth. K asks if he can lick my pussy.  Who am I to say no...can you imagine...nah...hells no!  So I slip off my clothes and lay back on the couch, he kneels between my legs and licks and sucks on my pussy til I come a few times.  I could have let him continue, but I am ready to go. I slide back onto the loveseat and he slowly enters my wet pussy.  Hes careful to some degree because his cock is a bit longer and has a slight curve (which I must say in a good position could come in quite handy) In the heat of the moment he does stroke alittle too long, but I must say some of the larger men I have been with are used to it and know when they've done it.  He apologized without needing too...its not as I ever figure these men are doing it on purpose.  Once I am good and wet and used to it then it doesn't bother me as much.  I enjoy others getting as much pleasure as I do.  So lets just say by the time my pussy was dripping wet I was grabbing on his back and ass and pushing him into me.  The loveseat did get alittle awkward and so we switched positions to doggy style.  And he was ramming my pussy in that position.  My tits were bouncing everywhere and it was feeling good.  I just had to wonder if I was feeling good to him. I guess we just get comfortable with our spouse, know exactly what feels good and vice versa, and have to say I just know how to send my husband over the top when I want to.  Some people in the lifestyle I cannot do that with and K was one of them.  But I can't figure I would with it only being our first time together.  I look at it this way...a lot of times you only get one chance to make a first impression....for reasons unknown sometimes people won't be back in touch.  And its a crazy thing, because you have to expect not to know everything about someone right off the bat...and its quite nice to have someone close in our town we can play with every now and then....because as I mentioned earlier, spending the money to go to a club and gamble whether your going to find someone is becoming a crazy waste of money.  It was a good time and we've tried to hook up with them since, T has been flirting with my husband, but since she was unable to truly play that night because of mother nature they haven't gotten down and dirty yet....  But we are still trying...and I am sure y'all will hear about them again real soon ;)

The Long Winter....

Not only has this winter been LOOOOONG, but a big blow for us as swingers, and it has nothing to do with our relationship or sexual desires and has everything with stereotypical assholes who see swinging as taboo or deviant.  Without getting deep into my personal life I will simplify the story...here it goes.  Last fall I got myself into the middle of a HUGE custody battle with an ex.  and needless to say all kinds of BS accusations got thrown, and when push came to shovel it was brought up that myself and my husband were swingers.  We are not shy about letting people know.  Do we go around telling everyone?? Of course not, we own a business and are respected in our community, but we are not afraid to admit it for those that ask...just the way we both are.  Non-judgmental of everyone so why should they judge us for a lifestyle we indulge in here and there.  We don't live the lifestyle everyday of our lives, do we have friends in the lifestyle, of course.  Do we all get together now and then...talk, bullshit and even play, of course we do.  But our kids are not affected by the lifestyle in anyway.  They were trying to say this made us bad parents???  As most of you know we ran Rumours...alittle cozy party every month to keep the mind, body and soul in tact...lol  We have never had parties at our home or  rarely invite others over (rarely is literally like 3 people..a close couple (G & J...anytime, they are friends) and another friend of ours K, but never when the kids were there.  This was enough to tweek my nipples but believe or not they pushed farther.  They submitted as evidence lifestyle pictures of me.  First, I am not ashamed of my body and its a natural beautiful thing..my lifestyle pictures are pretty conservative in comparison.  But my kids have also never seen them and don't have access to my computer to find any pics, any we have are on digital cards, and locked in our gun safe..only 1 key.  The point being how does being the lifestyle and having pictures on the internet effect me being a good mother??  I was so appalled this was happening and at the same time trying to get together Rumours again to re-open in Lima....what a nightmare!  We didn't play all winter,  besides the weather outside was frightful...I was so insulted that something so natural as sex and the permission from your spouse to fuck someone else and do whatever makes you feel good was being judged to the point of conflicting with my ability to be a good mother...for a minute I began to question whether I would leave the lifestyle for good.  Its no fun being judged.  I wasn't humiliated by them having the pictures and they could have shown them in the courtroom for all I cared....shit I had dreams about being on the stand and exposing my breasts to see if they just wanted to see the real thing. lol  Lords knows I would do it for real!  But someone saying it effected who I was otherwise during my family time with my husband and kids....hell no. 
I can tell you the custody case ended....WITHOUT going into Court, and it was a good outcome.  And....we are still swinging, and beyond ready to jump in with both feet and re-open Rumours.  Hope to see all my "friends" soon!!!

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Another g/f???

I am not opposed to bringing in another woman into our relationship and thought J was a good fit.  She is quiet, but pretty and we've both known her for years and shes very sweet.  My husband started talking to her about wanting to spend some time together and really let her know we both wanted this and she was receptive.  Well the other night she came over to spend the night.  We all watched tv, drank a few drinks and talked.  It got late and I crawled into bed and she moved up beside me...we both fell asleep.  The next morning we woke up and my husband had crawled into bed behind me.  He was caressing her hair and I rubbed her back and neck.  She seemed receptive and didn't ask either one of us to stop.  I took things slow...see this g/f as usual had never even kissed a girl.  And the thing with that...for me, is if you aren't bisexual I am not going to force it upon anyone.  My husband on the other hand...is a man and believes every woman is bisexual or should be...hehe.  I agree, but its not always the case.  I reached my hand around to rub around her ribcage and slid my hand up under her breast.  I wasn't going to go up under her bra unless I found her receptive or asked me to.  She never did. My husband then slid his hand around to her other breast and she placed his hand on it.  I wasn't aware of this at the time because we were all under covers.  Thats all the further it went because she got a bad migraine and ended up sick as a dog.  But after my husband made me aware she did that I realized he was not going to get his fantasy...not from her.  See we had this g/f a while back who was straight....but NOT with me and it was one of the most intimate moments I had with any girl.  I know thats what he wants to see again, but it has to all click...and it just wasn't.  Anyways he ended up staying home from work to "take care" of her.  I understand shes a friend and we've known her (and this is going to sound very jeolous of me, but its truely not) but swinging is fucking...its sex and sexual....not emotional.  I have never had to "take care" of any men I fucked....and I know its a difference in the sexes...men are primal and sexual whereas women are emotional.  But I don't want my husband in an emotional relationship with someone we are trying to seduce.  I mean I expect we should all be friends and be respectful and caring towards each other.  But when I see him doing things he would normally reserve for his wife....for another woman.  I just don't get it and don't want it that way.  When I tried to explain it to him, he rationalizes that its just like that with women.  Whats with women?  I am starting to feel unbisexual because I just can't deal with that mentality....the swingers aren't wanting to play....the vanilla women want "relationship" type stuff and the men...well they always just want to fuck...so thats not an issue..lol   I mean i know at the end of the day where my husband is going to be and where his heart is, but I can't help as a woman myself to think its unfair of another woman to think she should have my husband like that...where are all the sluts who just want to fuck and have a good sexual time??  Geesh.    Needless to say after 1/2 the day at our house, J just got up and left, no ty or whatever.  And that was really strange.  Was she regretting it?  Did she think I was mad?  I mean I guess I just put too much thought into all this....again just need a no strings attached slut for my husband. lol    My husband talked to J via txt and she said she just wasn't ready for all this, after a previous break up.. Oh lord...its just sex.  Maybe I am a sexual addict with a mind just alittle like a man, because I am not in a relationship with anyone but my husband....but someone who in this lifestyle is about fucking different people...men and women and if it works out it does, if not...live and learn I guess.   So we will see what happens with this.  Because I know he really wants to fuck her.  I am ok with that, but that needs to be all it is....

RUMOURS Wet and Wild ORGY

Another party down…whew.  It started off alittle rocky…didn’t help that I had to go to Cinci earlier in the day and it was late when I got back..tired cranky and mother nature made an appearance a couple days before…I know TMI, but it played a huge role in this party…unfortunately.
I was mad already because I am such a planner and my husband, well he does things on a whim.  So when I got back from Cinci…we still had yet to move all the stuff to the hotel and set up.  I just barely had enough time to set up..shower and change before 8pm!  I hate being rushed!
The party…well it turned into an all out orgy. People got naked and got busy right at the party…which is exactly what you want to see.  Everyone had fun and it was a great time.  I couldn’t play but enjoyed meeting some new people and seeing alot of familiar faces too.  The most important part is that everyone had fun and had great sex. 
I even ended up back in the playroom…doing some watching for a min,  after packing it all up we went back to the room and I rode my sybian while I gave him a blow job….after we went home to sleep in our bed.  I never want to be one of those host/hostesses that it becomes all business (like some we know!)  I told my husband he could play but he opted not to since I couldn’t.  We both seen people that we were interested in…just couldn’t do it.  I enjoy watching tho…so it still would have been a treat to watch….next time.  Oh yeah next time, its my birthday…so I get what I want on my birthday for me and my husband!!!

The Fort March 9, 2013

Another trip to the Fort to a club...seen a few old friends and met some new.  I have to say some days the swinger world is a strange place!  My husband sat down and began to talk to this attractive woman.  I didn't even catch her name.  I sat down on the other side of her and was just listening to their conversation, but totally wasn't included...but thats ok too.  Her husband came and sat across the way on another couch, so I decided to I should be respectful and say Hi and introduce myself.  We talked for a few.  He finally asked if my husband was going to touch his wife, because he really liked to watch his wife with other men...ok I get that.  But my husband and I really live a respectful life in and out of the swinger lifestyle.  So its all about if its ok with the other person so there are no problems later on down the line.  I mean we both know what we are doing, but its just a respect factor.   Anyways so I had to use the restroom anyways and so I popped up and told him that her husband wanted to see him touch her.  He asked if it was ok...and totally was fine with it and excused myself to the restroom.  When I returned my husband was kissing her breasts and had his hand up her dress rubbing her pussy.  I took my seat next to the husband, watching what I could see of them and also had a great view of the room.  Her husband  was playing with himself and had no interest in me and thats fine I can say it was mutual.  But I couldn't hardly see what they were doing with clothes on...I am more turned on by being up close and personal, by being somewhat involved and just felt out of the loop.  But by far was ok with my husband enjoying himself.  She climbed on top of him and stradled him on his lap.  She asked if he wanted to fuck her and he replied he would have to talk to me first, just again a respect thing.  But I def would have been ok with it.  She kissed him on top of his head and said she would be back...then poof they were gone from the club.  I walked around seeing if I could find them, but guessing they left???  It was the weirdest thing ever.  I am not sure if we as a couple over analyze everything or what, but just kinda rubbed us the wrong way.  Needless to say at the end of the night we were approached by a couple that I didn't neccessarily find attractive, but we considered it for a min...but the female of the couple had licked so much strange pussy over the evening her breath smelled like fried tuna and about made me puke in my mouth!  omg.  People...breath mints plz!!  I ended up with E later that night and it was wonderful.  First time someone made me squirt...multiple, multiple times and all I want to know is the secret so I can do that to women :D  E is a great fuck and fucked upside down and sideways from the time the club closed til 6am...I could have went on but that was late or early whichever way you look at it, and it was time to go.  It was enjoyable but again not so much when my husband didn't get to play. 

Halloween...bahhahaha

It was a dark, dark night. And all the girls had come out to play...oh I mean ghouls...LOL

It was actually a pretty fun night at a swinger club east of  where we live.  Alot of the usuals and alot of new faces.  We dressed up....My husband the hunter and myself as a bunny...you know the bunny with the black dress, black lace bunny ears, black and white cuffs and heels...
We roamed the party...it was standing room only anyways.  We talked to alot of people we already knew and checked out those we didn't. I drank, I danced, I flirted....the night was underway....

There was this single woman who we knew, but I had never been with her. We were flirting, she was touching me.  It had been awhile since I had been with a woman...long over due!  It was making me hot because she wasn't one of those women you had to be aggressive with...equal playing field for sure.   So we went back to a room...and skipped the foreplay, or is it all considered foreplay for the women...lol  But I laid back on the bed, she spread my pussy lips and began licking me..my lips, my clit...until it wasn't long til I came all over her face.  I gracely returned the favor.  My tonque exploring her pussy up and down...in and out.  I began fingering her g-spot while she rubbed her own clit til she came.  After cleaning up and returning to the hallway I ran into another girl...S...oh S.  She was the girl I wanted.  So beautiful and so soft as girls should be. I flirted and she didn't seem to mind.  I asked her if she was bi-sexual and she said she wasn't, BUT her bf let me know he would love to see that {insert every man's fantasy HERE} LOL Shit I would love to see that and experience that.  But I am not the pushy type...even considering my best bi experience was with a "straight" woman..so she claimed..I left it to flirting. :(  She was the one I wanted and I always got what I wanted...hmmm  Once I turned from her I was whisked back into a room with A, a single male.  I have been with A before and its always been good...and interesting.   This night was alittle different...for both of us.  He was all over me against the wall...sucking my nipples while I was rubbing his cock. I then sat down on the bed, took his cock in my mouth... Once on the bed he had me in every position imaginable and twisted up like a pretzel.  I was grabbing the side of the bed, nearly pulled the bedsheets off the bed...but he did one thing he has never done ...cum.  **SIDENOTE INSERT: I think in this lifestyle you have to trust people and no one wants to end up getting someone prego or get an STD**  Who knows I always found it odd the other times, but I think I get it.  Anyways he asked if he could cum on my tits.  I usually don't let anyone do this..I mean my husband I wouldn't mind, but hes not into that anyways.  But its just the respect factor...I have been watching too many rounchy porns. LOL  But he asked me and I figured that was it, he didn't want to cum inside me ...and really men, thats ok with me because it does eventually make its way out...urg.   Back to cumming...I turned around like in a 69 position and caressed and licked his balls while he came on my tits.   Now my husband was like...what? I thought you weren't ok with that stuff.  I still am not a fan, but when you know the other person, have been with them and know they respect you...guess he just didn't want to cum inside me...and again thats fine.. I was ok with it.  Now from any tom, dick or harry...nah.  He asked I wanted to please as I was pleased by him.  Its all good. 
It was a good time.
I am always alittle disapointed when my husband doesn't play.  I like to see him please and get pleased just as much as he does me...where are all the slutty girls??  Hes genuinely social, but respectful...so not the type just to ask someone if they wanna fuck...and hes particular, which is fine with me.  Just ready to find a couple or two to play with on an on going basis...or even better another single girl like K (my straight bisexual lover) LOL  Now that was fun!