My time is valuable....

If I could make the above statement flash I would...shit I am not complaining, but....ok I am alittle bit.  I just wish people would value and respect my time as much as their's. 
I had two incidents in the last two weeks that I just had to walk away from because I am really funny about my time with my family and vanilla friends...
The first a friend of mine called me and asked if I could come over to their house and have a 3some with them to surprise them for their anniversary.  I was hesitant because my husband and I are full swap same room.  But he does trust me and this is something as a single woman I have never done...been the 3rd in a 3some w/a couple.  Anyways I worked 7a-7p that day and asked if we could do it the next day.  T indicated to me she only had a sitter for that night.  So I agreed, I came home exhausted, took a long bath and got dressed..make up the whole 9 yards....then I waited, and waited and waited.  I was suppose to go over at 9pm...and I was getting tired then, but still up for it.  T texted me and the kids were still there, so she said she would text me when they left.  She ended up texting me back at 10:30p...and she was ready.  Lord have mercy.  Needless to say I couldn't help it I was almost asleep on the couch and I never left my couch except to go to my own bed.
The second incident was on the 4th of July.  We had met a couple online and been to a cookout at their house.  Nice couple and was only looking for g on g deal.  So I was like what the hell.  We invited them over and no distinct plan was made on time, but when my husband texted them that day...they were out of town.  Ok...shit happens, but then they texted him again and said they would be over real soon....we waited, and waited....they finally showed at 11pm.  Really we invite you to a cookout and this is the respect we get? Needless to say I sat around the fire with them for a bit, then went inside and laid down.  They soon followed but I then went up stairs to bed.
I get it everyone has a life, but that also applies to us!  ...I am giving up the pussy for free and in return hopefully having a good time myself, but I had the opportunity on the 4th of July to go to a festival myself, which I declined because I didn't want to be rude.  But we were the ones who got treated rudely.  Just tired of selfish people, and if they don't care about us and our time then I don't care about them getting pussy ;)